posted by admin on Jul 12
You may remember in a previous article that I tested this spiritual connection and find a date. I simply registered with a well known Internet dating agency and posted my profile with my photo. My profile was genuine and kind and loving and gentle but had a lot added about soul mates and partnerships etc. I am an average to quite good looking guy and received a few matches and emails and messages along the way. After a few months I then altered the photo on the profile from my own to one of a male catalogue model. In the space of one week I had around 180 email, offers of a date and letters with some women almost throwing themselves at me. What horrified me though was that some of these women had already seen this profile with a different photo and ignored it and more importantly the women who got in touch talked about how spiritually alike we were and how I appeared to be perfect. They didn’t know me, we had never chatted to me yet they thought I was ideal. These women had clearly read my profile but the fact was, over 180 women were simply swayed by the way I looked. It had nothing to do with my personality and outlook or any of the details about me whatsoever. Yet to them I was The One. It doesn’t feel good to be found out does it! So consequently I have come to the conclusion that many women are indeed searching for The One. They are looking for that spiritual connection – as long as you are gorgeous and handsome and have a great career. It is not fair to be too critical of this state of play because I believe the concept of ‘The One’ has been borne out of a modern liberation of women where they are now able to pick and choose exactly who they want to be with. No woman has to find a date. The main contention I have is that it is as ruthlessly shallow and misguided as men have ever been accused of in the past. Women do want a good looking man who is in shape. They do want someone who is fun and sexy and a good career and they do want a man who understands commitment and responsibility. But whether they in fact find him is another matter altogether. I am often told by girlfriends that ‘I am happier single than accepting second best’. What is second best? Second best appears to be everything that isn’t perfect in the eyes of the beholder. Maybe that means I am second best and if so maybe I should start to feel I have issues! One friend told me this week that she was willing to lower her sights ever so slightly as she gets older but in general she would not be lowering her standards. Again it ties in with find a date who epitomizes all the characteristics of the ideal man finding a date.